KarateBuilt Podcast Transcript – Bullying Prevention Part 4-C

Transcript of Bullying Prevention Part 4-Section C…

Myths Truths and What to Do!

At KarateBuilt Martial Arts, Sr. Master Sanborn and I are constantly working towards building programs for children’s safety. Here is a written portion of the transcript of their discussion on bullying…

Sincerely,

Karate

 

 

 

Ch. Master Greg Moody, Ph.D.

The Podcast:

Dr. Greg Moody, LAC, Ch. Master Instructor:

The parent component is really important as well because the parents then understand what’s going on. And then if their kid was bullying another kid or supporting the bullying or having some negative behavior, if the kid gets sent home, the parent knows not to punish the kid incorrectly or do something that might be counterproductive, but also they’re part of this educational process. And if their kid’s getting bullied, they know how to help support their kid in the right way. If their kid’s helping, they know to be positive about what happens in rewarding their kid and reinforcing the really good behavior that they’ve been showing. So the parent’s also part of it. And if a situation happens where, for example, a kid’s bullying another child, all the kids parents are going to get called and talked to. But the parents know ahead of time that this is how the process works and they’re not going to be surprised or shocked by this call from the school. They’re going to be part of the growth process.

Dr. Greg Moody, LAC, Ch. Master Instructor:

In the community then, the community can be supportive of all the different parts of this process. And they might be financially contributing, they might be supported at the different events that the school has, they may be on the school board or the school bullying prevention board that they create and do other things that support the process. So that’s a great program. And if you find somebody that can work with your school in supporting the Olweus Bullying Prevention Program, that’s a great system to have in your school. I think we might be running out of time. So we’ll probably have to pick up next time on what we built this program on that we do in our martial arts school and how that also can affect your kids.

Dr. Greg Moody, LAC, Ch. Master Instructor:

Because for all kids, education programs are important. This is important to know about because some of your schools will have a really solid program. And some schools will have a program that may have some missing pieces or may not have much in terms of bullying prevention. Again, I don’t blame the schools for that. They’re under so much pressure for all kinds of other areas that we do need to understand that. That means that regardless of what kind of program they have, parents and kids, we need to be working on how to prevent bullying in lots of other areas.

Dr. Greg Moody, LAC, Ch. Master Instructor:

If you’re one of the kids that supports kids if they’re being bullied, or you’re one of the kids that’s getting bullied, or maybe you’re one of the kids that’s bullying other kids, what do we do about that and how do we help move it forward? So we’re going to talk next time about how martial arts can help and what we do in martial arts. And if you’re not in martial arts, how other programs and other different activities for kids can help prevent bullying and what to do in those types of programs.

Dr. Greg Moody, LAC, Ch. Master Instructor:

Master Sanborn, anything to add? I didn’t really let you get a word in edgewise this time.

Sr. Master Laura Sanborn:

So going over that, it seems to me that the most important thing for an education system is that the teachers are educated on what bullying is, but then what can they do? Because we’ve that one where the teacher says, “Okay, Johnny, you’re not allowed to bully. So I want you to apologize to Billy for pushing him today.” And Johnny’s like, “Sure. Sorry, Billy, no problem. I’m sorry.” And Billy’s like, “That doesn’t solve a thing.”

Dr. Greg Moody, LAC, Ch. Master Instructor:

Yeah. It doesn’t solve a thing because the kid who’s being bullied, sure, there’s an apology there. But then later on the playground, the one who apologized is just going to punch him in the head or do whatever he wants, because that didn’t really solve the problem. What needed to happen was there needed to be a negative consequence. An apology’s not really a negative consequence in that scenario most of the time. And it’s not conflict resolution. We’re not having conflict. We’re having bullying and bullying needs to have a different solution. Conflict resolution is different. So people need to know the difference. And by the way, when we get to adults, again, same thing. Conflict resolution is different for bullying. So you’re right exactly, Master Sanborn. That’s got to be handled in a different way.

Sr. Master Laura Sanborn:

And that has to do with educating educators on what bullying is and then what can they do? Because they might get to school first, have the first meeting at school of the year, and they’re told, “Okay, we have a zero tolerance for bullying in this school. Don’t let it happen in your classroom.”

Dr. Greg Moody, LAC, Ch. Master Instructor:

Right.

Sr. Master Laura Sanborn:

Okay. I’m a brand new teacher. This is my first time in this school. My other school had something else. What does that mean and what-

Dr. Greg Moody, LAC, Ch. Master Instructor:

Yeah. What am I supposed to do with that? I mean, now I see bullying or something might be like bullying. I’m not really sure what it is. I learned some stuff in school about it. But what are you guys defining as bullying? And then if I see it as bullying, what am I supposed to do? I go to this principal and say, “I think that guy bullied the kid a little bit because he pushed him once. So is he supposed to be expelled?” I mean, you’re not going to expel a kid because you saw somebody push somebody a little bit. That happens all the time. So how are you supposed to manage that? That would be like the police officer, somebody goes 66 miles an hour and you’re telling me I have to arrest him and put him in jail for a year?

Dr. Greg Moody, LAC, Ch. Master Instructor:

I mean, expelling a kid is like you might as well put somebody in jail for a year. That’s a major deal. Zero tolerance doesn’t make sense in that case. And even if it’s not really expelling a kid, if it’s something less severe, it doesn’t make sense in a scenario like that. It wouldn’t make sense in that type of deal. So we’ve got to be really careful. There needs to be graduated levels of negative consequence that are matching the type of bullying that might happen. And that’s something that then the school needs to have a good handle on. The teachers need to know that this happens. I can identify bullying really well. If this happens, I can do this and I can do it quickly and I can do it in a way that’s not going to mess up all the other academic things I’ve got to deal with, and I’ve got to be trained enough so that I know what to do.

Dr. Greg Moody, LAC, Ch. Master Instructor:

Parents, for the ones that are listening, you got to be able to do that too in a way to be able to identify what’s happening. And then we’re going to talk later about when if it does happen, if your child’s coming to you and says he’s being bullied, or maybe you get a call or you hear that your child’s bullying somebody else, which is one in five kids are doing that so it could be yours, what do you do about that? So we’ll cover that coming up. Well, thanks everybody. We ran out of time but we’ll get to that next time and I look forward to it.

Sr. Master Laura Sanborn:

Thank you, sir.

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Dr. Moody is also a licensed psychotherapist and maintains a practice at Integrated Mental Health Associates (IntegratedMHA.com) where he specializes in couples therapy and mens issues.

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